The art of getting married – and it is a real art – has been blown up to immense proportions by the media, by celebrity weddings and by our own concepts of the ‘Disney fairy-tale wedding’ whether it is the brides choice or the grooms choice to pull out all the stops. In all reality it is quite a stressful time in your life where it seems as if everything has to be perfect and the odds are stacked against you. Not taking into account the pressure of couples to get married, there is still a lot of pressure for couples to have a big white wedding, or to put on some sort of impressive wedding for their spouse and all their friends. It can really take it out of you!
But here’s the good part; it doesn’t have to be a massive wedding. There is such a thing as a small scale wedding with only a small gathering of friends and relatives. As the ‘traditional’ aspect of a wedding boundary has greyed over time, so has the requirement to follow cultural and religious traditions. Yes you are certainly allowed to have a traditional wedding, but you don’t have to follow all of the traditions and this can really help to alleviate some of your stress.
Why not take a look at our four reasons at how a small, personal wedding is often preferred nowadays.
- Personal and Individual
Big fancy weddings are great. There are elaborate statues and carvings, a huge buffet table, sweeping rooms full of dancing space and no end of guests to potentially talk to. However it can all seem a little daunting. With a smaller wedding, you’ll know everyone attending, you’ll feel more comfortable with then and there will be no silly introductions at the start of the event. You can simply get down to business and get down to enjoying yourself. Perfect.
- Less Hassle and Stress
A smaller wedding means a smaller guest list, a smaller venue, less people to organise, more time to worry about the outfits and the caterers, in short you have a lot more time to sort everything out. If you’re not one for organising events, or if you’ve never organised something like this before and would perhaps like to give it a try, a smaller wedding is ideal as there are less things to worry about. Less items on the agenda means less stress and more time for you to enjoy your special day. It is a win-win situation.
- Wider Choice of Venues
Some people will have picked their venue out years in advance. Some may – like a certain popular TV show – only limit themselves to a matter of weeks. With wedding parties on a larger scale, you have a limited choice of venues. Depending on how many guests you are seating, some venues will only allow a certain amount for the actual ceremony itself and this can throw a spanner in the works sometimes. For smaller wedding parties, it means that you can have your pick of wedding venues.
As with everything else on this list, if you have less guests to worry about, less food to buy, a smaller venue to hire then that means you won’t need quite as big a budget. If you want you can choose to be extravagant and still give yourself the same budget, splashing out more on cakes and entertainment and the like. Or you can be conservative and save money otherwise spent on the wedding towards a deposit, or as a nice down payment for an upcoming honeymoon. It is up to you.
While having a huge number of guests fawn over you and your partner, laughing and eating cake can be a great experience, at the end of the day it is you; the bridal couple, who matter most. If you don’t feel comfortable having a big fancy wedding with everyone, their neighbours and their dogs invited, and you don’t exactly have the big budget to splash out on something with all the trimmings, a small, personal wedding is perfect. Plus, that’ll give you the ideal excuse not to invite your boss, or their overly enthusiastic spouse!
A few of your would-be guests may be put out, but the final decision is not up to them. People have all sorts of different weddings nowadays and there is not so much stress placed on tradition. If it is what you want, if it is what will make you happy and what you are comfortable with, then that is all that matters. Go for it and have a great, worthwhile wedding to remember!
Article provided by Wickwoods Hotel Country Club and Spa, a stunning venue based on The Sussex Downs – perfect for weddings, celebrations and sporting tournaments